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MovingBackHomeWithYourParentsAfterCollege
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MovingBackHomeWithYourParentsAfterCollegeIsaGoodPreparationforChildrentoSecureaBetterFuture.(250-300words)
大学毕业后回家与父母一起是为就为了孩子做好准备,以确保更美好的未来。
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MovingBackHomeWithYourParentsAfterCollegeIsJustanEscapefromTheirResponsibilities?
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大学毕业后搬回家与父母一起是逃离他们的责任?
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MovingBackHomeWithYourParentsAfterCollege–HowtoMakeItWork
Atsomepointinyourlife,youhavelikelyheardthephrase,“Youcan’tgohomeagain.”However,aspopularasthesayingmaybe,it’sentirelywrong:
Millionsofyoungadultsaremovingbackhometolivewiththeirparents,sometimeswithchildrenoftheirown.
Accordingtoa2011 PewResearchCenterReport,thecountryisnowexperiencing“thelargestincreaseinthenumberofAmericanslivinginmulti-generationalhouseholdsinmodernhistory.”Morethan10%ofallhouseholds(11.9million)includemembersofmultiplegenerations,themajorityofwhichwereanadultchildlivingwithaparent.Thenumberofchildrenreturninghomehasbecomesocommonplacethattheyhaveearnedtheappellations“babygloomers”and“boomerangs.”Oneofeveryfouryoungadultsbetweentheagesof18and24indicatedthattheyhadreturnedtoliveintheirparents’houseafterbeingindependent;oneinfiveofthosebetweentheagesof25and34reportedthesame.
Whenachildreturnshomeasanadult,itisrarelyvoluntary;rather,itistheconsequenceoftoolittleornoincome,highdebt,and/orpoorincomeprospects.Youngpeople,eventhosewithcollegedegrees,havebornethebruntoftheGreatRecession’simpactonthejobmarket.Only54%ofAmericansbetweentheagesof18and24arecurrentlyemployed,thelowestemploymentrateforthegroupsincethegovernmentbegankeepingtrackin1948.Furthermore,theunemploymentrateforyoungcollegegraduateshasexceeded19%forthepasttwoyears,withnosignsofimprovement.
Thosewhohavejobstypicallyearnwagessubstantiallylowerthanintheyear2000,andtheyarelikelytotake10to15yearstomakeupthedifference,accordingtoa2012reportbythe EconomicPolicyInstitute.In2010,theaveragecollegegraduateowed$25,250instudentloans,up5%fromtheyearbefore–andthenumberislikelytocontinuetorise.
Whiletheprospectsofparentsandtheiradultchildlivingtogethergenerallyexcitesnoneoftheparticipants,itcanbetolerableandevenenjoyableifthepartiesanticipatethepotentialproblems,considerthesituationtobe“temporary,”andagreeuponresponsibilitiesandbehaviorstoalleviatepossibletensions.
ParentsCopingWitha“Boarder”
“It’sjustnotfair,”complainedSuetoherhusbandAlabouttheiradultsonTripplivingwiththeminthemovie“FailuretoLaunch.”“Weweregoodparentsandnowwe’resupposedtobedone!
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Manyparentshaveasimilarreactionwhenlearningthattheirchildwillbemovingbackhome.Unlesstheyhadexperiencedasimilarpredicamentintheirownlives,parentsfrequentlyassumethatthechildhassomehow“screwedup”andisthereforeresponsibleforhisorherinabilitytofindajoboraffordanapartment.However,thisisnotnecessarilytrue.Parentsshouldrecognizethattheunprecedentednumberofadultsmovingbacktolivewithparentsismorelikelytheconsequenceoftheintegratedinternationaleconomicsystemanditswidespreadoutsourcing,increasingautomation,andthetepidrecoveryofthe2009globalrecession.
AccordingtoKatherineNewman,deanoftheschoolofartsandsciencesatJohnsHopkinsUniversityandauthorof “TheAccordionFamily:
BoomerangKids,AnxiousParentsandthePrivateTollofGlobalCompetition,”theseconditionshaveledto“morelong-termunemploymentandrealstructuralweaknessinthelabormarket.Thathashadasignificanteffectonnewentrantstothelabormarket.”Inotherwords,yourchildismorelikelythevictimofcircumstancesthanself-inflictedactions.
Whiletheparent-childrelationshipisoneofthelongestlastingsocialtieshumanbeingscanestablish,itusuallyincludessometensionandaggravationinthebestofcircumstances,usuallyoverrelationships,finances,housekeepinghabits,andlifestyles.Recognizingthatyourchildhasbecomeanadult,capableofmakinghisorherowndecisionsandacceptingtheiroutcomes,canbedifficultaccordingtoDr.MarionLindblad-Goldberg,professorofpsychiatryatUniversityofPennsylvania.“Parentscanrelatetotheiradultchildrenwhenthey’reawayfromhome…Butinthehome,particularlyifit’sthesamehome,thekidgoesfrombeing28downto25to20andendsupat7.”
Fallingintooldpatternsofcommunicationandhabitsisdestructive,guaranteeingthattheexperiencewillbeunpleasantforallparties.Mothersshouldbeparticularlyawareofunsolicitedadvice,asadultsonsanddaughtersreportmoretensionwiththeirmothersthantheirfathers.Parentsneedtokeepinmindthattheirchildrenarenolongerlittleboysorgirlswhoneedtobetoldwhattodo,butgrownmenandwomen.
Anadultchildreturninghomecanbeahugeinconvenienceandevenafinancialburden,butrememberthatcomingbacktolivewithMomandDadwasn’twhereyourchildexpectedhisorherfuturetoleadeither.Allparties–Mom,Dad,andadultchild–needtorespectoneanother’sneeds,boundaries,andauthoritytomakethenewcircumstanceswork.
AdultsWithNewRules
Adultswhoreturnhometolivewiththeirparentsoftenexpecttobehavesimilarlyaswhentheylivedalone,butinbetterfinancialcircumstances.Afterall,theyhavebeenontheirown,inchargeoftheirownschedules,andabletocomeandgoastheypleasewithwhomevertheywantforatime.Beingaskedtoconformtorulesinplacewhentheywere16is,intheiropinion,unreasonableandunwarranted.Theymayviewthearrangementastemporaryandthinkofthemselvesasguests,notasfamilymemberswithresponsibilitiestoothersinthehousehold.
Asareturningchild,youneedtoappreciatethatthehouseisyourparents’homewithitsownsetofrulesandhabits.Yourparentsaremakingasacrificetoaccommodateyouandcoversomeofyourexpenses.Therefore,theyareentitledtothesamerespectandcommon courtesythatyouwouldshowtoanyroommateorfriend.Whileacurfewisnotreasonableforanadult,lettingyourparentsknowthatyouwillbeoutlatesotheydon’tneedtostayupandworryistheamicablethingtodo.Inshort,tobetreatedasanadult,youshouldactlikeone.
Adultchildrenlivingathomeshouldcontributeafairshareoffinancialandhouseholdresponsibilities.Ifyouhaveanincome,contributesomethingforroomandboard;it’sthegesturethatisimportant,nottheamount.Helpwiththehouseandyardworkfromtimetotime,andalwaysbesuretocleanupafteryourself.Yourparentsmaybehappytohaveyouwiththem,buttheydon’texpecttobefull-timemaids,chauffeurs,orcooks.Whenyouhaveadisagreement,actliketheadultyouare,notthewhinykidyoumayhavebeenwhenyoulivedathomepreviously–thisisalsoagreatwaytoensurethatyourparentstreatyoulikeanadult.
Finally,haveaplanandatimetabletomoveoutandfindyourownapartment.Thedateofdeparturedoesn’thavetobewritteninstone–itmaybewhenyougetajoborwhenyou’vepaidoffaportionorallofyourdebts–butitshouldbeatargetuponwhichbothpartiesagree.Itisaloteasiertotoleratedifferentlifestylesandunusualpersonalhabitswhenyouknowthearrangementisshort-term.Asenseofhumorisavaluablecopingmechanismandacomfortduringtensemoments.
ImportanceofPreviouslyAgreed-UponRules
Researchfromparentsandtheiradultchildrenwhohavereturnedhomeclearlyshowsthatanagreementabouttherulesthatwillbefollowedbyeveryoneisparamounttoasuccessfulandsatisfyingexperience.Theagreement,preferablyinwritingforreferenceinadispute,shouldconsider:
1.ThePrivacyofEachParty
Familymembersinthesamehouseoftenviewcloseddoorsasinvitations,personallettersasnewspapers,andprivateconversationsasopendiscussions.Continuingsuchbehaviorisinappropriate,couldbeembarrassing,andmightleadtoopenhostility.
Ifmaintainingasenseofprivacyisdifficult,investinasetofdoorlocks.Thequestionsofovernightguestsandromanticactivityshouldbediscussedpriortothemovetounderstandwhatmightbeacceptableinthehomeandwhatshouldoccuroutside.
2.Autonomy
Bothparties–theparentsandtheiradultchild–usuallyhavepossessionsthattheyhaveacquiredandconsidertobepersonal,includingthehouse,automobiles,sportingequipment,andmore.Whethertheseitemsareavailabletootherhouseholdmembersoranyconditionsorrestrictionsregardingtheiruseshouldbediscussedupfront.Whileitisimpossibletoanticipateeverycontingency,theabilitytoinviteguestsoverortousetheautomobileswithouttheagreementoftheotherpartyshouldcertainlybeconsidered.
3.Responsibilities
Whodoeswhat,when,andhowoften?
Peoplelivingtogetherneedanunderstandingoftheexpectationsoftheothersandthedutiesthatwillbeperformedindividuallyandcollectivelytomaintainthehousehold.
Ifyouareunemployed,yourobligationtoyourselfandyourparentsincludesadiligentsearchforemployment,perhapseventakingajobforwhichyouareoverqualified.Whenyouarehome,sharethehouseholdchores–don’twastethedayplayingvideogamesorwatchingtelevision.Andifyoudrinkbeer,buyyourown.Youmighttreatyourparentstoanightoutoccasionally,too.
4.MovingOut
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