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做了错事不怪别人,而应反省自己;
不用别人说我也会去做正确的事情,哪怕没有人在看。
Iamaresponsibleperson.Itakeinitiative.Ichoosemyactions,attitudesandmoods.Idonotblameothersformywrongactions.Idotherightthingwithoutbeingasked,evenwhennooneislooking.
操作实例:
曾经很长一段时间都是我在帮逃逃准备第二天上学的书包,后来发现适得其反。
有一次我没在家,他就完全蒙了,第二天上课要交的作业、要用的文具都没装进书包,这让我感觉他对我的过分依赖。
后来我用两天的时间,让他看着我收拾书包,然后让他自己装,最后再检查一遍,告诉他有什么东西漏掉了,经过一周的训练,他完全可以自己收拾书包了。
接着,我把越来越多的事情交给他自己负责,比如收拾玩具房、洗自己的袜子、甚至帮忙制定假期自驾游路线等,很多家长怕把事情交给孩子会弄遭,可是谁第一次做事不是迷迷糊糊的呢?
多给他一些尝试的机会,慢慢地,你会发现孩子的能力超乎你的想象!
Yourlifedoesn'
tjust"
happen."
Whetheryouknowitornot,itiscarefullydesignedbyyou.Thechoices,afterall,areyours.Youchoosehappiness.Youchoosesadness.Youchoosedecisiveness.Youchooseambivalence.Youchoosesuccess.Youchoosefailure.Youchoosecourage.Youchoosefear.Justrememberthateverymoment,everysituation,providesanewchoice.Andindoingso,itgivesyouaperfectopportunitytodothingsdifferentlytoproducemorepositiveresults.
Habit1:
BeProactiveisabouttakingresponsibilityforyourlife.Youcan'
tkeepblamingeverythingonyourparentsorgrandparents.Proactivepeoplerecognizethattheyare"
response-able."
Theydon'
tblamegenetics,circumstances,conditions,orconditioningfortheirbehavior.Theyknowtheychoosetheirbehavior.Reactivepeople,ontheotherhand,areoftenaffectedbytheirphysicalenvironment.Theyfindexternalsourcestoblamefortheirbehavior.Iftheweatherisgood,theyfeelgood.Ifitisn'
t,itaffectstheirattitudeandperformance,andtheyblametheweather.Alloftheseexternalforcesactasstimulithatwerespondto.Betweenthestimulusandtheresponseisyourgreatestpower--youhavethefreedomtochooseyourresponse.Oneofthemostimportantthingsyouchooseiswhatyousay.Yourlanguageisagoodindicatorofhowyouseeyourself.Aproactivepersonusesproactivelanguage--Ican,Iwill,Iprefer,etc.Areactivepersonusesreactivelanguage--Ican'
t,Ihaveto,ifonly.Reactivepeoplebelievetheyarenotresponsibleforwhattheysayanddo--theyhavenochoice.
Insteadofreactingtoorworryingaboutconditionsoverwhichtheyhavelittleornocontrol,proactivepeoplefocustheirtimeandenergyonthingstheycancontrol.Theproblems,challenges,andopportunitieswefacefallintotwoareas--CircleofConcernandCircleofInfluence.
ProactivepeoplefocustheireffortsontheirCircleofInfluence.Theyworkonthethingstheycandosomethingabout:
health,children,problemsatwork.ReactivepeoplefocustheireffortsintheCircleofConcern--thingsoverwhichtheyhavelittleornocontrol:
thenationaldebt,terrorism,theweather.Gaininganawarenessoftheareasinwhichweexpendourenergiesinisagiantstepinbecomingproactive.
习惯2
Beginwiththeendinmind-Haveaplan
有目标,有计划
做事前先定计划和目标,努力去做有意义和能带来积极影响的事。
Iplanaheadandsetgoals.Idothingsthathavemeaningandmakeadifference.Iamanimportantpartofmyclassroomandcontributetomyschool'
smissionandvision.Ilookwaystobeagoodcitizen.
上周拜访了一同行,他们团队有位从美国回来过暑假实习的学生,他说这位实习生最大的特点是,每次给她分配任务时,她第一个问题肯定是“forwhat?
”以终为始,目标感很强,然后就是定计划,列清单,所以每次都把任务完成得很出色。
逃逃刚放暑假,我就和他一起列了张计划表,把想做的事情列下来,再写出要做这个事的目标和计划是什么,主要分为以下几个问题:
你打算做一件什么事?
做这件事的目的和意义是什么?
通过做这件事想要达到什么样的效果和结果?
计划用多长时间做完这件事?
So,whatdoyouwanttobewhenyougrowup?
Thatquestionmayappearalittletrite,butthinkaboutitforamoment.Areyou--rightnow--whoyouwanttobe,whatyoudreamedyou'
dbe,doingwhatyoualwayswantedtodo?
Behonest.Sometimespeoplefindthemselvesachievingvictoriesthatareempty--successesthathavecomeattheexpenseofthingsthatwerefarmorevaluabletothem.Ifyourladderisnotleaningagainsttherightwall,everystepyoutakegetsyoutothewrongplacefaster.
Habit2isbasedonimagination--theabilitytoenvisioninyourmindwhatyoucannotatpresentseewithyoureyes.Itisbasedontheprinciplethatallthingsarecreatedtwice.Thereisamental(first)creation,andaphysical(second)creation.Thephysicalcreationfollowsthemental,justasabuildingfollowsablueprint.Ifyoudon'
tmakeaconsciousefforttovisualizewhoyouareandwhatyouwantinlife,thenyouempowerotherpeopleandcircumstancestoshapeyouandyourlifebydefault.It'
saboutconnectingagainwithyourownuniquenessandthendefiningthepersonal,moral,andethicalguidelineswithinwhichyoucanmosthappilyexpressandfulfillyourself.BeginwiththeEndinMindmeanstobegineachday,task,orprojectwithaclearvisionofyourdesireddirectionanddestination,andthencontinuebyflexingyourproactivemusclestomakethingshappen.
OneofthebestwaystoincorporateHabit2intoyourlifeistodevelopaPersonalMissionStatement.Itfocusesonwhatyouwanttobeanddo.Itisyourplanforsuccess.Itreaffirmswhoyouare,putsyourgoalsinfocus,andmovesyourideasintotherealworld.Yourmissionstatementmakesyoutheleaderofyourownlife.Youcreateyourowndestinyandsecurethefutureyouenvision.
习惯3
Putfirstthingsfirst-Workfirst,thenplay
做事分主次,先工作,后娱乐
不该做的事,勇于说不,在重要的事情上花时间;
学会制定优先级,做日程表,并执行计划;
对自己有纪律,做事井井有条。
Ispendmytimeonthingsthataremostimportant.ThismeansIsaynotothingsIknowIshouldnotdo.Isetpriorities,makeaschedule,andfollowmyplan.Iamdisciplinedandorganized.
如果一件重要和一件紧要的事情放在你面前,你会先做哪个?
做事情要有优先级是美国孩子从小学一年级开始就受到的教育,点击这里查看美国一年级学的任务管理矩阵。
自从学会这个方法,逃逃便屡试不爽,开始把自己的事情规划得清清楚楚,相信时间一长,他便能迅速区分开,哪些事该做,哪些事不该做,该做的事先做哪个等等。
养成这个好习惯,能让孩子在整个成长过程中保持理性,更愉快高效地完成学习及生活中的各项事务。
Toliveamorebalancedexistence,youhavetorecognizethatnotdoingeverythingthatcomesalongisokay.There'
snoneedtooverextendyourself.Allittakesisrealizingthatit'
sallrighttosaynowhennecessaryandthenfocusonyourhighestpriorities.
Habit1says,"
You'
reincharge.You'
rethecreator."
Beingproactiveisaboutchoice.Habit2isthefirst,ormental,creation.BeginningwiththeEndinMindisaboutvision.Habit3isthesecondcreation,thephysicalcreation.ThishabitiswhereHabits1and2cometogether.Ithappensdayinanddayout,moment-by-moment.Itdealswithmanyofthequestionsaddressedinthefieldoftimemanagement.Butthat'
snotallit'
sabout.Habit3isaboutlifemanagementaswell--yourpurpose,values,roles,andpriorities.Whatare"
firstthings?
"
Firstthingsarethosethingsyou,personally,findofmostworth.Ifyouputfirstthingsfirst,youareorganizingandmanagingtimeandeventsaccordingtothepersonalprioritiesyouestablishedinHabit2.
习惯4
Thinkwin-win-Everyonecanwin
从双赢角度考虑问题,利己利人
勇于争取自己想要的,但同时也会考虑别人的需求;
有矛盾的时候,寻求能平衡彼此需求的解决方案。
IbalancecourageforgettingwhatIwantwithconsiderationforwhatotherswant.Imakedepositsinothers'
EmotionalBankAccounts.Whenconflictsarise,Ilookforthirdalternatives.
几个月前,逃逃的小姨给他寄了一个玩具,刚好邻居家的小孩Jose也在,看到玩具后非常喜欢,就央求逃逃借给他玩几天,可逃逃怎么也不肯,还把玩具藏了起来。
一天放学后我看他兴致冲冲的把玩具拿出来玩,突然Jose也跑来了,他便立马把自己也躲进衣橱里。
事后我告诉他,应该thinkwin-win的方式来解决这个问题,不然你自己玩不好,Jose也不高兴,相当于lose-lose。
后来结果就是逃逃非常热情的把玩具带到Jose家,两人开开心心地一起玩了一下午,大家都win了。
ThinkWin-Winisn'
taboutbeingnice,norisitaquick-fixtechnique.Itisacharacter-basedcodeforhumaninteractionandcollaboration.
Mostofuslearntobaseourself-worthoncomparisonsandcompetition.Wethinkaboutsucceedingintermsofsomeoneelsefailing--thatis,ifIwin,youlose;
orifyouwin,Ilose.Lifebecomesazero-sumgame.Thereisonlysomuchpietogoaround,andifyougetabigpiece,thereislessforme;
it'
snotfair,andI'
mgoingtomakesureyoudon'
tgetanymore.Weallplaythegame,buthowmuchfunisitreally?
Win-winseeslifeasacooperativearena,notacompetitiveone.Win-winisaframeofmindandheartthatconstantlyseeksmutualbenefitinallhumaninteractions.Win-winmeansagreementsorsolutionsaremutuallybeneficialandsatisfying.Webothgettoeatthepie,andittastesprettydarngood!
Apersonororganizationthatapproachesconflictswithawin-winattitudepossessesthreevitalcharactertraits:
1.Integrity:
stickingwithyourtruefeelings,values,andcommitments
2.Maturity:
expressingyourideasandfeelingswithcourageandconsiderationfortheideasandfeelingsofothers
3.AbundanceMentality:
believingthereisplentyforeveryone
Manypeoplethinkintermsofeither/or:
eitheryou'
reniceoryou'
retough.Win-winrequiresthatyoubeboth.Itisabalancingactbetweencourageandconsideration.Togoforwin-win,younotonlyhavetobeempathic,butyoualsohavetobeconfident.Younotonlyhavetobeconsiderateandsensitive,youalsohavetobebrave.Todothat--toachievethatbalancebetweencourageandconsideration--istheessenceofrealmaturityandisfundamentaltowin-win.
习惯5
Seekfirsttounderstand,thentobeunderstood
先去理解别人,再求被人理解
仔细聆听别人的主意和情感,努力从他人角度去理解问题;
听别人说话的时候不插嘴、不打扰,并注视他的眼睛;
能自信地说出自己的主意。
Ilistentootherpeople'
sideasandfeelings.Itrytoseethingsfromtheirviewpoints.Ilistentootherswithoutinterrupting.Iamconfidentinvoicingmyideas.Ilookpeopleintheeyeswhentalking.
用大家的老话说,这点就是学会站到对方的角度去考虑问题,先做到尊重别人,才会得到别人的尊重。
大家不妨在生活中试试“Showyourrespect”这句话,这句话是美国父母们经常给孩子说的,印象中听过好多次,后来我自己也学会了。
孩子们从小就会被要求和人沟通要认真听、不打断,你可以表示不同意,但是必须要showyourrespect。
Communicationisthemostimportantskillinlife.Youspendyearslearninghowtoreadandwrite,andyearslearninghowtospeak.Butwhataboutlistening?
Whattraininghaveyouhadthatenablesyoutolistensoyoureally,deep
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